A Wedding Anniversary Guide - History, Themes, Gifts & Etiquette

This article explains the history and meaning behindThe relevant colour is silver or blue and the
wedding anniversaries, offers some gift ideas toappropriate flower is the daffodil (trumpet-shaped
celebrate the different milestones and providesdaffodils represent joy, cheerfulness, and happiness).
etiquette advice for holding an anniversaryGift ideas include - personalised number plate,
celebration.engraved brushed aluminium frame or a personalised
Wedding anniversaries are an ideal opportunity forteddy in a tin.
married couples to celebrate their love for one15th Wedding Anniversary - Crystal
another and remember why they decided to marry inTraditional gift material is crystal and the
the first place. Historians have traced the origins ofcontemporary theme is watches. The relevant
silver and golden anniversaries to medieval Germanicgemstone is ruby. Gift ideas include engraved crystal
Europe, where silver and gold garlands weretankards, champagne flute and wine glasses.
presented by the husband to the wife to celebrateAppropriate colour theme is ruby red. If flowers are
the 25th and 50th years of marriage respectively.to be given Roses are the appropriate choice.
Prior to 1937 only the first and major milestone20th Wedding Anniversary - China
anniversaries had materials associated with them. InThe traditional theme is china and the modern theme
1937 the American National Retail Jewelleryis platinum with the gemstone being emerald.
Association issued a more comprehensive list ofRecommended gift ideas include personalised
representative materials for all the traditional weddinganniversary plate, personalised trinket box or dinner
anniversaries for each year up to the 15thservice. Relevant colour theme is emerald green or
Anniversary and then every fifth year after that upwhite and flowers are Lillies.
to the 60th. This list has been continually updated by25th Wedding Anniversary - Silver
various commercial companies over recent years andSilver gifts are given to celebrate this important
today celebrants can choose between the traditionalmilestone wedding anniversary. The appropriate
list as well as a contemporary list of anniversaryflower is the Iris. Suggestions for gifts include a silver
themes (which provides alternative modern-dayanniversary candle, engraved silver picture frame or
suggestions such as electrical appliances!)silver plated champagne flutes.
Traditionally, gifts exchanged or given in the early30th Wedding Anniversary - Pearl
years of marriage were practical household items toThe traditional material associated with this one is
aid the couple in starting a new home together (anpearls and the relevant flower is the Sweet Pea with
extension of the wedding gift). Luxury gifts tend toa green colour scheme. Ideal gifts include a pearl
be given in the later years when the couple hasnecklace or engraved mother of pearl trinket box.
already acquired things they need. The more40th Wedding Anniversary - Ruby
cynical-minded might see the increase in gift valueRuby is the theme for this wedding anniversary and
over time as an incentive to stay married!the appropriate flower is the nasturtium. Gift ideas
The following section outlines the main weddinginclude ruby jewellery or a bottle of port.
anniversaries, associated themes and provides some50th Wedding Anniversary - Gold
useful gift suggestions.One of the big ones! Gold is the order of the day
1st Wedding Anniversary - Paperand the relevant flower is violet. Gift ideas include any
Traditionally the theme is paper which is supposed togold jewellery or perhaps a gold hearts wedding
symbolize the strength obtained from the interlockinganniversary album.
fibres. The modern take on this is a clock for reasons60th Wedding Anniversary - Diamond
to do with timeless, eternal love. The precious metalsNow it starts to get really expensive - Diamonds! This
gemstones associated with the first weddingis the first of two diamond anniversaries, the other
anniversary are gold jewellery, pearls or peridot. Thebeing 75 years.
associated colour is gold or yellow and the relevant75th Wedding Anniversary
flower is the orange blossom or pansy.The 75th anniversary is the original traditional diamond
Gift ideas include a photo album, commemorativeanniversary with the 60th being added when Queen
newspaper, wedding day chart, personalised poem,Victoria celebrated her Diamond Jubilee on her 60th
share certificate, movie/concert ticket, photographanniversary of accession to the throne in 1897.
by a professional photographer, subscription to aAnniversary Celebration Etiquette
favourite magazine; have a star named after a lovedIn the early years (say less than 15) the anniversary
one or a clock.celebrations normally only involve the couple
2nd wedding anniversary - Cottonthemselves, and often include an overnight trip or
Traditionally cotton gifts are given because cotton'second honeymoon'. However, in the later years, any
has always been associated with prosperity andchildren they might have may decide to organize the
durability. The modern gift theme is china. Theanniversary celebration for their parents. For
relevant gemstone is Garnet, and the associatedmilestone anniversaries a party is usually the order of
colour is red. If you are going to give flowers thenthe day. It is not recommended to throw a surprise
the go for Cosmos (which means modesty).party for a couple on their anniversary, because not
Gift ideas relevant to the cotton theme include aall couples will appreciate the gesture; it is always
(personalised) bathrobe, towel or tee shirt, and forbetter to discuss any plans with the couple prior to
china how about a (personalised) trinket box, mug orthe event, especially as they may already have plans
anniversary plate.of their own.
3rd Wedding Anniversary - LeatherInvitations to an anniversary party should be sent out
Traditionally leather gifts are given based on theat least four weeks in advance of the celebration. An
durability of this material being analogous to theinvitation does not imply the need for a gift. Indeed
durability of your marriage! The contemporary thememany couples are uncomfortable about receiving gifts
is crystal or glass (not so durable!)and often request that no gifts are given by the
If you are going to give your partner jewellery thenguests at their anniversary, perhaps they feel they
opt for pearl or jade. The relevant colour theme isdon't really need anything or they may not want their
white or green, and associated flower is the Fuchsiaguests to feel obliged. It is important that you try
(which means taste).and respect their choice, but if you insist on giving a
Gift ideas for the third wedding anniversary includegift, it is advisable to do so after the event so as
leather wallet, handbag or briefcase, leather boundnot to embarrass the hosts or the other guests who
book, engraved vase, perfume bottle, wine ordid not bring a gift.
champagne glasses, engraved glass tokens orGenerally it is not deemed good etiquette to ask for
perhaps an engraved decanter.a monetary gift although asking for a small
4th Wedding Anniversary - Fruit/Flowerscontribution towards a commemorative gift such as a
Traditionally fruit or flowers are meant to symbolize atree or sundial is a nice way of getting around this.
blossoming and fruitful relationship. Less romanticIf traditional gifts are given it is normal for the couple
modern, albeit practical thinking, suggests givingto open them later rather than during the celebration,
electrical appliances!although again this is down to personal choice.
The relevant gemstone is Blue Topaz with the colourPersonalised gifts make great anniversary gift ideas
theme is blue or green. If you're planning to giveas the personal touch makes the present much more
flowers then the suggested bloom is the geraniummeaningful. If a personalised gift is to be given it is
(which incidentally means folly or stupidity!)often more usual to include the number of years
Some gift suggestions for a fourth weddingmarried plus the couples' names rather than the date
anniversary are cut flowers, a basket of fruit, andof marriage.
engraved glass flower token, rose bush, or shares inThe seating of guests at an anniversary party is
Apple Corp.really down to personal taste although traditionally
5th Wedding Anniversary - Woodthe oldest son sits beside his mother and the eldest
Traditionally the theme of the fifth weddingdaughter beside her father with the best man or
anniversary is wood which symbolizes a strong andmaid of honor from the couple's wedding day and
long lasting marriage. The modern gift theme iswith their respective spouses also seated at the main
silverware. The relevant gemstone is sapphire andtable.
the appropriate colour theme is blue, pink andTypically a short speech of some type is expected
turquoise. The flower you are supposed to give iseven at a very informal affair. Often one of the
the daisy which represents innocence and love.children says a few complimentary words about their
Suggested gift ideas include planting a tree, aparents and this is followed by a response by one or
personalised jigsaw, personalised wine box, woodenboth members of the couple in order to thanks the
commemorative plaque, photo personalised coastersorganizers etc.
or placematsAbove all, any wedding anniversary celebration is a
10th Wedding Anniversary - Tin/Aluminiumcelebration of a couple's love for one another and
Traditional materials are tin or aluminium symbolizingcan be as large or small, formal or informal and
the flexibility and malleability of a good relationship.private or shared as you want it to be.
The contemporary theme and gemstone is diamond.