| There's a secret to understanding anger, and it is | | | | release that anger by lashing out at someone else. |
| simple. Anger, almost always, is not the first reaction | | | | Your child will send signals when the anger has |
| someone has to a situation; there is a prior emotion | | | | subsided enough that you can begin a calm discussion |
| like disappointment or sadness which precedes the | | | | about its cause; it may take you a few false starts |
| anger. | | | | to learn to read them, but eventually you will. |
| Parenting angry kids can be difficult; sometimes it can | | | | When you do settle down for your talk, limit it to a |
| be nearly impossible. | | | | discussion of facts. Let your child tell you the specific |
| But understanding anger itself, and realizing that it's | | | | thing you did, or failed to do, that triggered the |
| not only healthy, but essential, for kids to express | | | | anger. Don't interrupt with your explanation; you'll only |
| anger, will start them on the road to learning to | | | | leave you child feeling frustrated. Parenting an angry |
| express it appropriately and not in ways harmful to | | | | kid can be challenging! |
| others and to themselves. | | | | Once you're sure your child has nothing left to offer |
| Even so, the first time a child announces that he or | | | | on the topic of how your actions were responsible |
| she hates Mom, or Dad, or both, can be very painful. | | | | for his or her outburst, start brainstorming on what |
| But it's almost certain to happen at least once, and | | | | the two of you can do to avoid such a confrontation |
| when it does, you can exercise some techniques for | | | | in the future. |
| parenting angry children which will help both you and | | | | Inviting children to solve the problem is an extremely |
| your child survive and live to laugh another day. | | | | empowering gesture, and lets them know that their |
| When you feel your own simmering dislike of the | | | | place in a relationship with you does count. |
| way in which your child is behaving begin to heat to | | | | You may be surprised that your child's anger is |
| an uncomfortable level, just stop, focus on a spot on | | | | sometimes justified. Sometimes parents promise to |
| the all, count to three, or ten, any number of your | | | | do something without really paying attention to what |
| choice and restore your equilibrium. | | | | they are saying, and do not realize that their children |
| The worst thing you could do is respond to your | | | | are taking them seriously. |
| child's anger in kind and get sucked into a power | | | | Or they erroneously blame their children for |
| struggle. You have the power; your child knows it; | | | | something without getting all the facts. If you find |
| and that's why he or she is testing you. | | | | you have done that, simply apologize. Parenting an |
| Let your child know that you hear the anger and that | | | | angry kid will require you to accept responsibility for |
| as soon as it has subsided, you'll have a conversation | | | | your own shortcomings. |
| about what caused it. Don't try to talk the child out | | | | Above all, no matter how angry your child is at you, |
| of feeling what he or she so obviously does feel; | | | | be ready when the outburst is over to let him or her |
| whether or not you think the anger is justified is not | | | | know that it's okay to be angry, that you sometimes |
| the issue. | | | | become very angry, and that your child's anger is no |
| The anger is real, and you need to let you child know | | | | match for you love. |
| that while it's okay to be angry, it's not okay to | | | | |